More than 22 million Americans are caregivers for their parents or older relatives, and most are working full or part time. Adult children caring for older parents face problems like those above every day. Work is a financial necessity and/or a source of satisfaction for many, yet the responsibilities of caregiving and doing well on the job often conflict. People who want to do both well can be caught in the middle.

      The following tips present an overview of the issues for employees and employers. Ideas and resources are available to can help you manage your responsibilities efficiently and balance both your roles more effectively.

      Each working caregiver's job is different. If you are uncomfortable raising this issue with your supervisor, look in the operations procedures and find out your options, benefits and services.

      Ask your Human Resource Management Specialist for information on the Family and Medical Leave Act.

      Offer to work a less desirable shift or be willing to make up time taken for caregiving by working days or shifts when most people want to be off. This flexibility on your part shows your employer that you are committed to your job.

      Avoid mixing work with caregiving. If you need to make phone calls for information related to your parents' needs, do it on a lunch break or other non work-time.

      Manage your time well. When you must take time off for caregiving, set priorities and accomplish the most important things first. Delegate responsibilities when you can. Pace yourself; don't do so much in one area that you can't be effective in another.

      Get all the support you can from family members, friends, and community resources.

      Take care of your own needs. Pay attention to your health; get enough sleep and exercise regularly. Fun is also important. Take a break when the pressure gets too great. Talk with someone about your feelings and needs. This could be a member of the Human Resources EAP staff, clergy or a professional counselor.

      Talk with your supervisor about your caregiving issues. It's better to know the reasons for your late arrivals or seeming preoccupation rather than to draw his or her own conclusions.

      Be sure to thank those at work for the consideration and assistance your receive. Perhaps you can agree to take on an extra assignment or special project when you do have time, or help another who may have heavy family or other responsibilities.